conscious connection
My words will never completely be understood by anyone because we can only understand others to the extent that we understand ourselves. There is so much beauty in not understanding, it allows your mind to shift perspective into a learning state of mind rather than an argumentative or frustrated state. When you find thought in someone's words rather than just acceptance, it makes things become whole. Think about everything that may have led them to speak those words so bravely. Pause. Then give your thoughts back with the acknowledgement to how wonderful that thought was they were trying to express. A simple question asked to someone might not be all that special from the outside, but what they are setting themselves up for in conversation or connection is the most special thing. Be patient in conversation. Let’s take some of the greatest storytellers for example. They never want to just leave the audience with the whole product, they would be bored. The goal is to let them figure it out and be a part of the story. In other words, give them 2+2, not 4. Make them feel like there was value into them figuring out the story rather than just giving them the end result. This is the same in conversation. Talk about things that lead up to something of higher importance. This is when both people engaged in the conversation feel as though they both have value.
We all want to have the sense that we are valued by other people, we can do this most in conversation. Allowing the things you feel to be expressed through words in meaningful conversation. Things become misunderstood when you cannot hear the context of which the words are coming from or the tone of voice from how you want it to be heard. Misunderstanding leads to a lot of disappointment and unfulfillment. Life seems dull when you can’t make connections with one another. It takes time to fundamentally learn how to make connections though. It is a skill to be learned, but subsequently leads to living a life of pureness and satisfaction.
One of my best attributes is that I live with the intent to neither persuade or convince. I simply believe that opinions are very unique and they should be listened to because an opinion is not something everyone needs to believe in. It is that one person's unique thought. I do not argue because I am more engaged with how the person's thoughts shaped that opinion rather than thinking that their opinion is pressuring me to also believe it. That being said, when I express an opinion or belief I am not trying to convince anyone that they need to also believe it, it is simply my thought and I hope to engage new perspectives to better unfold what other possibilities there are. I am fascinated with the way people develop their perspectives and ideas. Everyone's a little bit different, which is why the world continues to have new ideas and inventions every day. Without questions, the world loses brilliant ideas. I am not saying that arguments are always a bad thing though. In some cases I believe there is a healthy benefit to some type of confrontation and learning to handle the stress of quick thinking and problem solving.
You can learn anything from anyone. And with the right mentality, you can learn from the relationship of nature itself. Conscious communication. No words necessary.
There was a time that I became so disgusted by the language we speak. Words became so invaluable. Everything I heard or written around me was expressed with complete and utter exaggeration. For example, the word love is tossed around very casually. This is far from a casual subject though. In fact, in some cultures like in Italy, they have different words that are similar to ‘love’ but are a step or two below based on meaning for their intended subject. This is what I would call ‘talking with intention’. Why say something so exaggerated if you don’t believe it to be true? Exaggeration has become a trend that has brought our language of connection to its knees. Words mean less leading to people not making a deeper connection to one another as often.
I began to talk less, listen more, and try and just use my consciousness to connect with the ones I wanted to speak with. The more intentional thoughts that I create toward someone, I would begin to hear from them more often or even have similar thoughts with them on a certain subject. Conscious communication has become my most powerful form of language because it shows the total connection I can make with someone when I give all my energy to them. It is a truly beautiful experience to have unfold when the thoughts you have get projected through another being.
Vola con me, Dino
